Coupled or uncoupled, we all feel lonely at times.
Often, we spend more time on our devices than with people—and we miss genuine face-to-face interaction. Or, maybe everyone in your friend group is getting married, or they all seem to be busy right now. Perhaps you just moved to a new city, and you don't know anyone.
Whatever the situation, loneliness hurts.
What do you do with that ache inside?
When you're feeling sad or discouraged, take action with these helpful ideas:
1. Know that it's OK to feel lonely. Even if you love living the single life, feelings of loneliness can creep up from time to time. You know why? Because we were created for connection with other people. Healthy love and friendships are vital to our well-being.
2. Don't isolate yourself. It's easy to bury your head in work, or get lost in movie marathons or video games because you don't want to risk getting hurt. But we were built for relationships. When people are too isolated, they can get discouraged or even depressed.
3. Watch your self-talk. I don't know how many times I've given in to self-pity and sadness. And said to myself, "I feel so alone right now, so I'm just going to be sad." Instead, I can choose to say, "Yep, I'm feeling lonely right now. What can I do to find joy again?" I don't have to stay stuck in the sadness. I can take positive action. I can call a friend. Or go for a walk. Or do something I enjoy.
4. Consider a new direction. Feeling lonely can often be a catalyst—a nudge to help you move forward in a new direction. Perhaps you need to be more intentional about making friends or renewing relationships that have gone by the wayside.
5. Encourage someone else. That might sound odd, especially when you're the one who's hurting. But helping others can help you keep your mind off your own situation. Plus, serving others not only helps them, but also brings you joy.
This week, choose to take one small step to get back into hope and joy.
Remember, your loneliness will pass. It's only for a season. God is with you. Be at peace.
"And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age." (Matthew 28:20)