By Julie Clinton
Shaunti Feldhahn interviewed more than 1,000 men prior to writing her book, For Women Only. Though it was no surprise that the interviews revealed that men desire more sex, what was surprising was why. She writes...
God never wastes our pain. He is gracious and wise to use it, if we’ll let him, to grow and change us. The apostle Paul’s life wasn’t exactly easy…jail time, a shipwreck, being stoned. But somehow, in the midst of his hardship, Paul found God and experienced joy.
Ask most women today what they would like to be. Needy? Dependent? Clingy? Certainly not! Independent? Self-sufficient? Survivor? Yes!
I was deeply moved recently by Carol Kent when she said, “I was used to being on the giving end of compassion, and I didn’t like being needy. When I allowed the people closest to me to be the hands and feet of Jesus in the middle of my darkest hour, I experienced the comfort of being loved by Him.”
Tim and I had a rough start to our marriage. We didn’t communicate well. Come to think of it, we didn’t do much of anything well. And of course, it was all his fault.
So, I set about trying to change him. And to my disappointed surprise, nothing I did worked!
Honestly, we were pretty hateful at times in the way we spoke to each other. Much of it was due to our youth and immaturity. Some of it was due to our circumstances. We were both
Nevertheless, each individual among you also is to love his own wife even as himself, and the wife must see to it that she respects her husband.
In Men are Like Waffles—Women are Like Spaghetti, Bill and Pam Farrell describe the mind of men and women.
Isaiah proclaimed his wonderful prophecies of the coming Messiah and King during treacherous and dangerous times. The nations around Judah were conspiring to invade. They were “plotting the ruin” of the nation. So when Isaiah was called by God to be His spokesperson, he was accepting a daunting and dangerous assignment. Yet Isaiah accepted it willingly and confidently.
The day Tim and I left Megan at kindergarten was really hard for us. Her hair was up in a bow, and her lunch box was at her side. We sat her down at her desk, got out her crayons, made small talk with the teacher, and kissed Megan goodbye.
As a 22-year-old soldier, Bill Wilson accepted his first drink. When he welcomed alcohol into his life that day, he didn’t think about his deadbeat alcoholic father or his carefree mother, who both left him in Vermont when he was just 10 years old. His father went to Canada and his mother to Boston. The predisposition to alcoholism went unrecognized.
Do you believe you must do everything now rather than accepting that some things are yours to do now and some are meant to do later?
Do you believe you must do everything you’re asked or want to do rather than acknowledging that there are others capable of helping?
Do you worry about missed opportunities and fear that you won’t be asked to participate a second time or at a later date?
If so, it’s worth exploring how your beliefs affect the number of things on your to-do list.
Behind the razor wire of a Florida State Penitentiary, a mother waits to visit her only son. Instead of allowing her own sorrow to completely engulf her, she looks around and notices the needs of the inmates’ family members waiting with her.
Carol Kent, a professional speaker and author, is also the co-founder of a ministry she never guessed she would have imagined into existence, Speak Up for Hope is a nonprofit organization dedicated to supporting inmates and their families.
Pain and adversity can easily strip us of energy and heart. All three of these women have been challenged by difficult circumstances, and all three made courageous decisions to stand by their men. They know two important things about their relationships and adversity—who they are and where they’re going.
Years ago, a Christian group on a college campus advertised a seminar titled: “Givers, Takers, and Other Kinds of Lovers.” We use the word “love” to mean almost any kind of connection today, but this leads to lots of misunderstanding. Needing someone isn’t loving them, and controlling them by any form of manipulation isn’t in their best interests. Real love is a choice, it’s open and freeing, demanding nothing in return. In Romans 12, Paul dives into what it means to live out love in our daily relationships.
Your child is dishonest to you. A friend betrays you. Your boss disrespects you in front of other co-workers. Your man lied; even cheated, breaking the trust you worked so hard to build. The result is often burning anger, resentment, fear, or a pillow drenched in tears night after night. You can feel sick to the stomach as the frustration, stubbornness, and bitterness from being hurt well up inside.
Imagine losing your husband. It is during a time of famine in the land andyou are also filled with personal emptiness, hunger, and sorrow. You are alone. Discouraged. Grieving. Then, your mother-in-law decides to move back to her homeland. A mother-in-law who had loved you. Accepted you. One who came alongside you as a godly influence in your life. What would you do? In today’s story, Ruth chooses to leave her people, her country, and everything familiar to her…and cling to her relationship with Naomi.
We Clintons seem to have a million things in our home that distract us. We’re often blitzed with several conversations and things going on at the same time. Phones ring, text messages arrive, TV shows blare… and when we have a meal together, someone in the house wants SportsCenter on in the background! I’ll bet your life is the same.
Hiding and healing are not the same thing. You and I don’t gain anything by denying our brokenness. We might like to resolve troubles immediately, but when it comes to our hearts, there are no quick fixes. We aren’t equipped to instantly heal. Instantly move on. The woman in today’s story learns that healing begins with coming out of hiding…and running to Jesus. Crying out to him. Being gut honest.
Did you know between 40 and 45 percent of adults in America make New Year's Resolutions to start January 1st. However, almost 100 percent of those resolutions are forgotten by January 20th. I myself, am guilty of this conundrum of a cycle. For the past few years I have set goals for myself that are forgotten as my schedule picks up and life becomes crazy again. Instead of persevering into the wondrous goals I have set for myself, I end up making the same goals each year between the week of Christmas and New Years Day only to find my failures around the beginning of February.
A recent Harris poll found that nearly 70 percent of Americans, and 76 percent of women, believe angels exist. In my mind, angels have always been beautiful creatures. They’re safe, warm, and protective. They watch over us and our children. Psalm 91:11 (MSG) says, “He ordered his angels to guard you wherever you go. If you stumble, they'll catch you; their job is to keep you from falling.” I love that.
In the midst of life changes, including unemployment, illness, loss, relocation, and retirement, you can be comforted by knowing that God’s love doesn’t change. He’s with you in the unemployment office, in the hospital, and in the moving van. He’s with you in the infertility clinic and as you begin to collect Social Security. Actually, He’s not just with you in these places, He’s in you in these places. And that’s a powerful piece of knowledge.
I don’t know about all the other Extraordinary Women out there, but Christmas shopping is one of my favorite things! I love buying special gifts for the people I love. From the anticipation of Black Friday to...
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Julie Clinton M.Ad., M.B.A. Is president of Extraordinary Women and host of Ewomen conferences all across America. A woman of deep faith, she cares passionately about seeing women live out their dreams by finding their freedom in Christ. Julie and her husband, Dr. Tim Clinton, live in Virginia and are the parents of Zach and Megan, who is married to Ben Allison.
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