By Dr. Joshua Straub
Research released this week shows that quality time with our kids is more important than the amount of time we spend with them.
To be fair, spending time with our kids is extremely important. Research shows positive outcomes for activities such as reading books with our kids, eating meals together, roughhousing, and one-on-one time.
But when we’re stressed, sleep-deprived, anxious, or yes, feeling guilty, we actually do our kids more harm than good.
To me, this research is freeing for guilt-prone parents for one primary reason:
It rids us of our “ought to”
Instead of ought to-ing ourselves into spending too much time with our kids overindulging or overprotecting them, perhaps we should be ought to-ing ourselves into taking more care of our own emotional well-being, nurturing our marriages, and taking some of the pressure off.
Besides, how many times have you begrudgingly left the kids like I did last Sunday only to arrive home to everyone doing just fine? Then, you proceed to beat yourself up for not actually enjoying and being in the moment earlier with your spouse.
Our ought to’s are killing our quality of life as parents—and our loved ones are feeling it.
Why should you spend less time with your kids?
Because your kids need you. All of you. An emotionally healthy and guilt-free you.
Because the time we do spend with them matters.
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Joshua Straub, Ph.D. is an author, speaker, family advocate and professor of child psychology. He is the president and cofounder of The Connextion Group, a company designed to empower parents, spouses and families. Josh speaks and writes on emotionally safe parents and spouses and the influence of technology on today's family. He is the author of Safe House: How Emotional Safety is the Key to Raising Kids Who Live, Love, and Lead Well and along with his wife, Christi, is the producer and co-author of the video curriculum The Screen-Balanced Family: Six Secrets to a More Connected Family in the 21st Century. For more encouragement and ideas on marriage and parenting in the 21st century you can join Josh and a growing tribe of awesome families at www.joshuastraub.com and follow him on Twitter @joshuastraub or Facebook.
Josh and his Canadian wife Christi reside in Nashville, TN with their son, Landon, and daughter, Kennedy.
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