By Dr. Meg Meeker
So you think you know the NFL? Think again. There are great dads in the league but you won’ t hear about them because they don’t leave scandals that titillate reporters looking for juicy stories to boost their careers. My buddy Benjamin Watson (below) sent me this photo as he was leaving for training to start the new season. He left his beautiful babies through tears and anguish, worrying what cost their dad’s separation might have for them.
Controversy and intense emotions surround breast feeding. Mothers who breast feed successfully enjoy satisfaction that they are promoting good nutrition and bonding with their babies. Other mothers, however, struggle with breast feeding and feel guilty if they offer a bottle. This should not be. Breast milk is best for babies but we need to keep nutrition and feeding practices in a healthy perspective and recognize that babies are born into a world which is larger than just their mothers.
By Dear Dr. Meg
Our almost ten yr. old son is acting more like a teenager than a 9-10 yr. old. He has decided not to do homework, has anger management issues, he is very emotional and is trying to act like he doesn't care about anything. He does get overwhelmed easily. He says he thinks he is stupid. My husband and I are feeling very overwhelmed and stuck.
My twin sons are in the 2nd grade. One of their classmates is transitioning from a boy to a girl. Any suggestions on how to handle this. We are thinking of putting the boys in private school.
We don’t often (ever?) associate the NFL with parenting. As a pediatrician, I get it. These gifted athletes come to the NFL to play well, help get their team to the Super Bowl, draw large crowds and well, make money for the organization. That’s all good, but I know that there’s more to these men than meets the eye, and my job as their advocate, is to help each one who is willing, to build upon and show off his skills as a father.
I know it sounds like an oxymoron to say that humility will make your daughter feel more significant, but here’s why it’s true. To fulfill her potential, your daughter needs to understand who she is, where she comes from, and where she’s going. And her understanding needs to be accurate.
Dr. Meg is asked to help a family whose daughter may have an eating disorder. This subject is very touchy and can have a very profound effect on a family and the family dynamics. Dr. Meg offers plenty of advice on places to go for help and how to talk with their daughter and encouraging her to seek help. If you know anyone with an eating disorder, Dr. Meg's advice just may offer you some of the same help this family is getting.
Dads, when your daughter is born, she recognizes your voice as deeper than her mother’s. As a toddler, she looks up at your enormous frame and realizes that you are big, smart, and tough. In her grade school years, she instinctively turns to you for direction.-
When it comes to teaching kids about sex and sexuality, our culture is one messed up place. We have crushed any respect for modesty (a self preservation reaction) and we have normalized the bizarre.
With adoption looking like my daughter's choice for her child, I'm finding people have so many opinions and keep saying, "Why is she giving up?" I find myself stuck and I know there are resources for her, but are there resources for me?
Question: How does one DO love without enabling them or ignoring them? I've not been able to get to a middle road with knowing how and when and what it looks like.
I imagine that you, like me, might have fallen into one of the following familiar traps, the most common ways we fail at getting our sons to talk about their feelings. We do all of these things with our daughters, too, but in my experience, we do them more frequently with our sons, because boys are so much harder to engage in conversation than girls.
An old saying often attributed to Joseph P. Kennedy (father of John F. Kennedy) is a truism for all moms out there, "When the going gets tough, the tough get going." As mothers, it will get tough raising an adolescent boy into a man. However, our fortitude and determination through the tough times is worth it.
Whether we are single, married, have eight children or one, the truth is that watching our children grow up and “away” from us is tough. But we must learn to gently let go of our sons in healthy ways as they mature. If we keep our eyes open to the process, we can handle it much more carefully and stand a better chance of having it go smoothly. To do this, remember a few things.
The bottom line is this- he disrespects you because he can. Period. Once you’ve had enough, you’ll find the backbone of steel to get serious...
As mothers, we know that feeling loved brings our sons deep satisfaction, contentment, and a sense of security that they will take with them into adulthood. When they are born we ogle over them and wonder how we can feel such intense love for one human being. But as our boys grow older, that perfect love can become complicated by the realities of day-to-day living. Sometimes our sons make us mad, or they disappoint us. Sometimes it feels as though they don’t appreciate us.
In as much as boys are different from girls in their characters, states of development, and emotional and physical needs, in my experience parenting sons is more like parenting daughters than it is different.
What are some important points to remember for families that have both parents working?
New hope may be available for children with autism. A study published in the reputable journal Behavioral Neuroscience found that autistic behavior in children ages 3-12 years old who received environmental sensory experiences found marked improvement in their behavior.
We have a 24 year old daughter who is very smart, but cannot seem to pick a decent guy to date. She is very giving, caring and also a people pleaser and does not like conflict. Can you recommend a book to us to share with her?
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