By Dr. Meg Meeker
I know it sounds like an oxymoron to say that humility will make your daughter feel more significant, but here’s why it’s true. To fulfill her potential, your daughter needs to understand who she is, where she comes from, and where she’s going. And her understanding needs to be accurate.
By Dear Dr. Meg
Is it still appropriate to attend a teenager's visit to his pediatric doctor? My son is a toddler now, but his pediatrician has hinted that he sees teenagers without parents.
One of the toughest aspects of being a hero to your daughter is not just deciding what is good and right for her, but also keeping her on track. Fathers can demand tremendous discipline from themselves, but they can find it much harder to stand firm with their children. Fathers get tired. Daughters can become defiant, manipulative, and wear their fathers down. This is where perseverance comes in.
By Dr. Meg
Our granddaughter is 8 years old and when both sets of grandparents are together she openly hugs and prefers them to us. How do we approach her to let her know how much this hurts us?
Boys need strong relationships with their parents. Period. Every boy, without exception, wants a better relationship with his mother and his father because his physical and emotional survival depends on you.
Once again media reporters have successfully extracted information from one story and created a completely unrelated narrative for one reason: to pit one group of parents against another. Sorry, but I won’t bite.
My three teenage daughters fight all the time. These fights tend to tear each one down, and in the end, their self-confidence is damaged. How can I teach them kindness, patience and understanding at this difficult age?
I have a three and a half year old son who is a very anxious little boy. It seems to be getting progressively worse...he is now biting his nails non-stop and having a hard time functioning in any new situation. When he is in his routine with family he is just fine and thrives. When we are in new social situations he has severe anxiety.
You talk often of the importance of a father in a daughter's life. Any advice or books to read for those of us who missed having that type of father. Mine was a godly man but we were never able to connect once I hit puberty. Never any encouragement or outward displays or attempts at showing his love for me as his only daughter. I feel it has affected the way I see God and struggle with Gods love for me as my heavenly father. I don't have much to compare it too.
My husband and I are having difficulty agreeing on discipline methods for our ten year old and eight year old daughters. We both are firm believers that sometimes a spanking is needed, but where we disagree is a very touchy subject.
An important part of adolescence is separating from one’s parents, in a process called emancipation. Teens usually embark upon this around puberty, beginning with baby steps (driving, getting a job, developing their own opinions) and ending with the giant leap into college or on to other adult endeavors.
I have a grandson who will be 5 next month. He likes the story of Cinderella and also Sleeping Beauty. I asked him why he liked these stories and he said that he likes the naughty step sisters in Cinderella and the wicked witch in Snow White.
How do you talk to a child, in this case my 6-year-old nephew, about how it is no OK for an adult to hurt you?
The tragic death of Robin Williams unnerved many Americans. Sure, we are sad to lose a talented man but on a deeper level, those who have loved ones struggling with sadness, irritability or who are just “not themselves” have wondered if those loved ones have depression. We are frightened because we don’t want to miss any cry for help from one who is struggling because depression is a very serious illness.
As a doctor, I can probe, culture, prescribe antibiotics, and aggressively treat and track contagious STDs. But depression is different. It’s more elusive, yet equally, if not more, dangerous. It can come and go, or it can settle in, making itself so comfortable in an adolescent’s psyche that it’s nearly impossible to extricate. There, just as many STDs do, depression causes permanent damage that may not become apparent for years. To many teenagers, depression can make them feeFor the thousands of teens I’ve treated and counseled, one of the major causes of depression is sex. I consider it an STD with effects as devastating as—if not more—HPV, chlymadia or any other.
As a doctor, I can probe, culture, prescribe antibiotics, and aggressively treat and track contagious STDs. But depression is different. It’s more elusive, yet equally, if not more, dangerous. It can come and go, or it can settle in, making itself so comfortable in an adolescent’s psyche that it’s nearly impossible to extricate. There, just as many STDs do, depression causes permanent damage that may not become apparent for years. To many teenagers, depression can make them feel as though another entity has moved into their body, taking over everything they think, feel, and do.
OK, so I'm lost. We are a blended family. We have been married for 11 years. In those years we have raised our family in a Christ-centered home. Though, before, neither of us lived that life. We had 3 kids in the home full-time, ages 16, 14, and 10. And 3 boys on the weekends, ages 16, and twins 15 - who, at their mom’s house, have lived a completely different lifestyle. They were allowed to talk how they wanted, go and do what they wanted. Smoking, probably drinking... I know there was pornography in their stuff.
He has since seen the error of his ways but now that he is trying to reach out to our daughter she wants nothing to do with him. It is heartbreaking!
I grew up in a Christian family, yet a conservative more dominant one. I grew up other people making the choices for me. But still, as I grew up I started taking control and responsibility for one area at the time, in my life. Yet I got here.
An epidemic occurs when, in a particular community, there is an extensive and growing prevalence of a disease that attacks many people simultaneously.
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